what men want (?)
I recently conducted a Facebook experiment to see how my Ads would change based on my Profile. The results were pretty predictable -- my teen boy was in desperate need of help with the ladies, and my older man needed to get rid of his love handles. Really? That's about as short-sighted as my Ads take on what women want (which I'll save for another, much longer and more complicated post, perhaps).

It was around the same time that Dmitri the Lover hit on me in a Toronto parking lot. I wish I'd known who he was at the time, as I would've loved the opportunity to actually discuss his needs and desires rather than simply react in a fight-or-flight kinda way (I fled, but not without giving him my number). As it were, I only learned about him after googling "toronto" and "hot greek stud" (which is what comes up on your call display when he calls you), figuring there's no way in hell this guy doesn't have a public profile. He does, and his misogynistic manifesto is rather frightening. I pray for the men who want what he wants.

I used to complain regularly about the seeming abundance of married men who didn't want to be married. Through a running dialogue with my boyfriend a couple of years ago, I eventually realized that it was just a perception -- of course unhappily married men are more inclined to make themselves known to women than happily married ones. Duh! Happily married men are all around, they're just less visible because they're not going up to women and asking if they want to get together sometime, just to talk. Seems like a no-brainer, but that was quite an epiphany for me. I now make an effort to notice the married men in my life who don't speak to me unless circumstances dictate they should and quietly thank them.

So what do men want, if it's not what marketers, Dmitri or the (perceived) rather large number of unhappily married men out there would have you believe?